My buddy is a student at UC Berkeley’s Haas School of Business. He taught me to take full ownership of my aspirations. I’ve always realized this was important, but I tend to let shyness take over when it comes to discussing my lofty goals with others.
Why?
Several reasons. I don’t ever want to be misunderstood. I also am friends with people who aren’t necessarily on the path I am, and my aspirations most likely arent relatable. Nothing wrong with that, but this is a main reason why I stay quiet about my plans of world domination and deliberate living.
This is a good reason to have multiple groups of friends. I have my friends I’ve known since high school, my more style-conscious friends, and my business-minded friends. Some individuals can transcend subgroups, but not many.
The takeaway?
Realize that in most cases, you’ll be alone in your thinking, and many won’t understand why you aspire to do certain things, to achieve certain goals.
Most people that lay outside your circle of like-minded friends won’t understand what you’re setting out to achieve. Don’t let that deter you or sway your confidence; let it empower you and give you more resolve… know that swimming upstream is tough but worth it.
It’s important to never be apologetic of your goals or your drive to succeed. Be proud of what you’re doing, where you’re trying to go, what you’re going to achieve. Talk and act as if it’s already happened, as if it’s already yours.
Stand up for what you’re passionate about and find people that will listen. Sooner or later you will find a connector that can help you take it to the next level.
Network. But don’t bullshit network. Let people talk, and really listen to them. Then tell people your story, and show them your passion.
Excitement is infectious, and the people you connect with may know others that can help you get where you’re trying to go. It’s like using Linkedin but in real life; the more connections you make, the more people in your circle. People know other people, and you’re not too far from a connector or influencer who has the power to help you change your life.
Be confident in your actions, take deliberate steps, and don’t look back.
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Sweet post B! I like how you say “Be confident in your actions, take deliberate steps”. If someone is timid they usually end up missing the step anyway because their so unsure. Be confident/deliberate with those steps and usually misses are rare. Awesome! Definitely putting this into action.
Definitely, and if you do mess up, it’s rarely ever permanent. Usually it’s just a chance to learn and improve upon your methods, and something to take note of so you don’t make the same mistakes.
I like the idea of it being like Linkedin, but in real life. That’s a good idea and I think too many of us, myself included, hide behind social media instead of forging real connections with each other.
And really aren’t those connections so much more valuable? I mean, a lot of them tend to start online but they can go so much further than the occasional tweet or blog comment. Really going out of your way to reach out to someone you admire or someone you want to partner up with, and see how you can help them in some way… I find that to be valuable and great for karma as well. :]